Pondering if what happens was really ‘meant to be’.
Have you ever pondered what fate actually means? Divine intervention that forces you into a position outside of your control. That doesn’t sound right to me.
I believe fate is the name given to the unquestionable acceptance of where you’re at in life, based on past choices.
It’s not that it was ‘meant to be’, it just feels like it’s the only way it could have gone, after making the choices that you did.
The problem with fate is that it’s always labelled as ‘fate’ after the fact and never before. If it was fate that I was meant to be hit by lightning tomorrow, I’d simply stay indoors— thus beating fate.
Asking someone “do you believe in fate?” is simply asking them “are you happy with the results and consequences of the choices you make?”
Getting hit by lightning isn’t fate, it’s the consequence of choosing to go for a walk in a thunderstorm.
Understanding that fate is an inevitable label for your results, not an inevitable result itself, gives power to your choices. You’ll end up where you’re supposed to because of your choices, not in spite of them.